Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question:
Singles and Dating: Men, Why is it a Bad idea to Pick up Women at Bars..? Q#2: any bad experiences you wish to share as an example?
Thanks all for answering
My answer:
Yes, it’s definitely not a good idea. It makes men work too much for the attention of women. First of all, there is the over-crowding issue. Then there is the issue of loudness. Usually, it is too loud at bars. You have to scream in someones ear.
Plus, women have way too much power in clubs. Most women come there to show off and get an ego boost from all the attention. Men have way too much competition. Women are on their guard because of this and they are ready to reject most men at the start already. I have had many bad experiences in bars.
I have talked to women for 15 minutes for example, and then she went to the bathroom and never came back. The majority of nights of meeting women at bars were a disaster. It wasted too much time and involved too much effort.
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its not bad if you’re matured enough to deal with it…but for the most part girls go to bars for the same reasons guy go to bars,to have a good time and get a couple of drinks…the end result varies all the time…
Who said it was a bad idea? If you like to go to bars for the atmosphere, then obviously if you pick someone up there they have at least one thing in common with you. It all depends on what you’re looking for though.
Woman at bars are not “long-term” material.
It’s not a bad idea. It can be negative at times, more so than other places, but it also can hold value. Usually people are going out to a bar to have a good time, and that usually means short-term. They aren’t particularly out to find the love of their life. If anything, they most likely want to make out or hook up with someone, but not much more than that. But almost everyone goes out, so there are people out there who are great dating material as well. It’s just most people aren’t looking for that at the time.
I dated several girls that I met at the bars. One I dated for 13 months and we are still really great friends. I met her in mid-September on 2006 and we talked a lot and hung out for a few months. Then we started dating each other exclusively as boyfriend/girlfriend that December.
When we first met at the bar we just talked and did the usual bar thing. I hit on her for a little while and I got her number. I called her not long after that night and continued texting/calling each other. Soon we got together to do stuff and slowly started hanging out.
Bars can bring good and they can bring not so good. Like I said, most people, even my ex-gf, was out just for fun that night. It took time to develop into more, but the potential is there for good dating material.
Bad experiences (summarized).
1. Bought her a drink cuz she had asked and she was polite, next minute she got the drink, then turned around and walked off. (bitch)
2. She started talking to me, i thought she was very nice, next miniute there is this 6’8 beast beast behined me looking extremily pissed off, after i got the crap knoked out of me, she introduced him as her bf then went on their way..(bitch)
3.Makes winks and smiles at me, only to find out that she was just using me to score her an expensive drink.(bitch
4.Flirting like crazey with me then at the end of what was to be a pleasant evening and after paying a tab of R759! she said she had to go and i thought id ask her for her number considering she was a great person to be with and when i did she smiled ,looked at me and said “Hey your a sweet guy but you are not my type”.
5. (after num4 thats when i stopped trying to pick up a girl at a bar)
1) I don’t ever pick up any so I don’t know
2) I don’t ever pick up any so I don’t know