If you look at things deeper there is actually no difference between direct and indirect game. Even indirect game is direct, the only difference is the time when you express your sexual interest in a woman.

And what is the right approach for you?

Indirect approach is a more of a subtle, under the radar type of approach. Some of the techniques guys use in indirect methods are: opinion openers, storytelling, banter and indifferent body language. Indirect method has some major advantages, and these are:

You don’t convey interest right away, so you don’t appear needy or outcome-dependent. It’s perfect for bars and nightclubs, women there are directly approached al the time. And you by communicating disinterest become very interesting to the girl. Also a woman must qualify yourself to you before you show interest in her and by doing this she becomes the pursuer, not you.

Flexibility of the indirect method is also one it’s great advantages. You can always point the interaction in the way you want it to go. If things are getting sexual fast you can easily transit to a more direct approach. Or if you see the woman you approached as a friend, you won’t mess your friendship by displaying sexual interest right of the bat. And you can always use your female friends as social proof.

Yes I know, indirect method sounds to good to be true. Because it is. But you should keep in mind some of the disadvantages of this type of game:

If you appear to be too nonchalant your girl might thing you don’t like her sexually. And so she will turn off and not see you as potential mate. A woman will never work for your attention if she thinks she is not worthy of it. Also by being indirect it is very difficult to communicate your dominance traits. There is a risk of showing off as insincere and incongruent. For example, your body is showing attraction to a woman and your mind is saying to her that you don’t like her. Be sure to sort out your incongruence.

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